Are you a Gentleman?

1. Who is a gentleman? A well-
mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behaviour.

2. Who is a gentleman? A man
regarded as having qualities of
refinement associated with a good
family.

3. Who is a gentleman? A man who is cultured, courteous, and well-
educated.

4. Who is a gentleman? A civilized,
educated, sensitive, or well-mannered man.

5. Who is a gentleman? A man who
never inflicts pain on another person.

6. Who is a gentleman? A gentleman is one who personifies grooming, etiquette, and culture.He is respectful, mild mannered, and courteous to all he meets.

7. The gentleman does not compel a lady to stay one minute longer than she intends to even if she is his girlfriend. The gentleman respects the wishes of the lady.

8. The gentleman knows that a Yoruba lady, an Ibo lady, and an Hausa lady will pronounce certain words differently than how it should actually be pronounced because of environmental influence. He, however,
does not look down on them because of that neither does he make a joke out of it.

9. The gentleman knows that saying “I am sorry” does not in anyway imply weakness. He is not ashamed to say “I am sorry” when he has behaved in a manner that is unbecoming of a gentleman.

10. The gentleman never snaps or
raises his voice at a lady.

11. The gentleman knows he will make mistakes every now and then.
However, the gentleman is not afraid to move on after making a mistake.

12. The gentleman never sags his
pants even if it is the current fashion trend.

13. The gentleman, if asked an
unintelligent question, does not make the person who asked the question look foolish when he replies. Instead, the gentleman replies with, “I’ll get back to you on that question.” By so doing, he has saved the person from further ridicule.

14. The gentleman knows he is not a gentleman just because of how he behaves himself in public but because of who he really is on the inside. He is not acting to impress but acting right. So whether public or private he remains a gentleman.

15. The gentleman never uses his
girlfriend or his wife for a punching
bag. Neither does he, out of anger,
break the television set. The
gentleman controls himself by keeping calm when angered by
someone else.

16. The gentleman never hits a lady. NEVER!

17. The gentleman knows well to
appreciate others when they do right. He appreciates in public and rebukes in secret (except in extreme cases). The gentleman knows that everyone likes to be appreciated.

18. The gentleman knows that “Please” and “Thank you” are still magic words.

19. The gentleman does not tell other drivers, “Waka!” or use other abusive languages when driving. He anticipates the unruly behaviour of other drivers and maintains his calm even when insulted.

20. The gentleman is a gentle man.

21. When the gentleman and a lady
approaches any door, the gentleman opens the door for the lady to walk through first before he walks through himself. Whether he knows the lady or not the gentleman always opens the door.

22. When the gentleman opens a door for a lady, he stands on the same side the door swings towards so the lady does not have to go under his arm as she walks through.

23. The gentleman knows that being a gentleman is an art and not a science. The gentleman is not trying to obey a set of rules. Instead he is seeking for ways to serve those around him and as much as possible make all those
who come in contact with him
comfortable in his presence.

24. When the gentleman takes a
bottled drink in a public bus he does not throw out the empty bottle through the window. He drops the empty bottle in the waste basket in the bus. If the bus does not have one he drops the empty bottle on the floor of the bus. The gentleman does not apologize for so doing.

25. The gentleman knows that Black is never out of trend. The gentleman always has a pair of black shoes, black socks, black trousers, and a pair of black suits.

26. If the gentleman arrives late for a function, he does not walk up the aisle to the front rows looking for where to sit except a seat has been reserved for him.The gentleman does not cause distractions with his presence. The gentleman quietly sits in one of the seats at the back rows.

27. The gentleman accepts
responsibility for his actions and
inactions and then some.

28. The gentleman does not dip his
bread into his cup of tea. Whether he is eating alone or at the table with others. The gentleman knows it is not good to the eyes.

29. The gentleman knows that giving appreciation is not the same as giving a feedback. When the gentleman appreciates a person he does not say, “You did very well but…” The gentleman simply says, “Tunde, that’s a very good job you’ve done. Thank you”

30. The gentleman is calm, cool, and collected.

Source: MUTE EFE's Note
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